3. Breathe It seems almost silly to breathe when you’re angry, but this could be the greatest anger management technique I’ve discovered. When you’re angry in conflict, you cannot manage your anger or listen to someone because your brain is depleted of oxygen. That explains why no one hears you when they are angry! Practice deep slow breathes to reduce your anger at a physiological level so you can effectively communicate for better relationships. 4. Journal your anger Writing down what made you angry is helpful because it acknowledges and expresses anger. It’s best to communicate your needs to someone, but some times this is not possible so you can write about the situation in your diary. Journaling helps process anger and manage what made you angry in the first place. It can lead you to reframe the situation to see what hurt you in a healthier light. 5. Have a key word Develop a key word with someone you get angry at to let you know it’s time to cool off. It’s helpful for someone else to say this word because you may be unable to detect your anger in a fight from oxygen deprivation. Use any word that is out of the blue so you know it means you must go away to relax. “Elephant”, “saw”, and “plate” are just a few words that can be used to help control anger problems in conflict.