If you want to be self-conscious, focus on other people. What a counterintuitive lesson! Once you focus on other people and reduce self-analysis, you begin saying and doing the right things. Also doing activities that make you focus and hold your attention can quickly boost your confidence.

3. Accept mistakes. A baby tries to walk, falls over, and gets up to try again. If it gave up like so many people with poor self-esteem, it would never learn to walk.

Please accept your mistakes if you want to build self-confidence. There is no failure, only feedback. When you really believe and accept this, you use failure to build confidence – another counterintuitive lesson.

Nobel Prize writer George Bernard Shaw said, “When I was young I observed that nine out of every ten things I did were failures, so I did ten times more work.”

That’s what building a high self-esteem is all about. Everyone fails, gets rejected, and feels humiliated at times. What matters is how you react to what life presents you.

The moment self-esteem-diminishing situation arises, ask yourself, “What would a confident person do in this situation?” The answer to that is the quickest way to build unstoppable confidence.